Many couples who come to work with me have a challenge in their relationship that they are stuck in.
We do ketamine-assisted couples therapy, and the blocks become clear to them.
They can more easily identify what happened, the root of their insecurities, + contributions to the conflict. They can access feelings of compassion for themselves + for their partner and make those first steps towards healing.
The ketamine session is the first important step.
Now, we set a plan for continued integration.
How will the couple continue caring for their relationship following the breakthrough?
Rituals are physical practices or symbols that we create to transform the abstract “Ah-ha!’s” from the ketamine therapy session into everyday reality.
They can be simple or complex.
They can be symbolic or practices.
They can be continued research or devotions to learn more about an ideology.
When we use rituals, they anchor us to the moment + transform it from the ordinary to the extraordinary.
As we consider that relationships need consistent attention + intention, they can help bring back to life relationships that have gone dull or conflictual.
It takes the intention to breathe life into something + keep it warm.
Imagine your love or sex life and the current efforts we place into them to nourish their beating heart.
We can take it all for granted, expecting it to be “natural” or “spontaneous,” but this is the key to sustainable healthy love.
Like the houseplants we let wither or thrive, our love requires intentional care.
Here are some ideas for daily rituals to incorporate with you and your beloved now or post-psychedelic or ketamine-assisted therapy session:
Morning Rituals:
A coffee + cuddle at the break of each day.
A morning worship at the temple of her pussy / their cock
A poem read together
Morning breathwork practice -- I have five intimacy breathwork practices designed for the Othership App.
Conscious sensual touch
Nighttime Rituals:
Going for a walk after dinner
A daily debrief of the day under the stars or cozied up inside
Reading a book together
Doing a spiritual practice together
Cook meals together
Listen to records + share music, dance
Deep personal question cards like from Skin Deep
Expressing gratitude
Anytime Rituals:
Playful games based on inside jokes
Practicing shibari rope skills together
Kinky protocols
Active role/character playing
Energetically activating Breathwork
Yoga or other exercise practice together
Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT, is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex, trauma, and psychedelics in Beverly Hills, Los Angeles. She is also a ceremonialist, author, teacher of yoga, and international speaker dedicated to evolving the relationship surrounding sexuality and our bodies. Through her company, SexLoveYoga, she leads online workshops, sensual retreats, + ketamine-assisted retreats for couples. She is also the host of Sex Love Psychedelics podcast.