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SEX. To Wait or Not to Wait?

Updated: Mar 5, 2021

“How long should I wait to have sex with him/her?”

“Am I devaluing myself if I have sex with him on the first date?”

It does not really matter.

It’s like when someone asks you how long you’ve been when your flame and you realize you’ve only been together for 1 month, yet the depths of this time together have been expansive. Or like those short term relationships that didn’t last, but were monumental in your personal evolution.

Time is not what we should be so hard focused on, but rather what do we create with that time that counts. In the time that we are given, I ask that we practice setting aside the goal-driven mentality and drop into a state of prolonging and anticipation.

I love to use the word Savor because it emphasizes this sense of extending and being fully immersed in the s