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LOVE. The Emotionally Unavailable

Updated: Oct 29, 2019

This article was originally published on Elephant Journal on December 1, 2016 and can be viewed here

There is an appeal to potential partners who are not open for true intimacy. As a result, there are many “relationships” that go on much longer than they need to. Heartaches and pining intensify our self-esteem issues and self-blame. Stories of potential futures together occupy our brain, preventing us from being open to anyone or anything else. And all the while, we feel loneliness even more strongly.

Why is it that we are so drawn to unavailable people? And what do we do to change this?