LOVE. Open Loops in Conversation

COMMUNICATION. Open loops—when we are left with questions still about a particular event, person, perspective. The output of energy that we are expending receives no input back, thus we may find our minds continuing to return back to the question again + again without clarity.

This can happen when we have a break-up but no closure or understanding why.

This can happen when our lover brings a situation to the table to talk about, and later we have more questions that arise for us.

This can happen when we move through an experience + are stuck wondering someone’s motive or if there is something that was unclear or unspoken.

Sometimes we attempt to gain closure + the other person does not have the depth of insight to be able to answer us.

Sometimes we unconsciously have a specific answer we want them to say, but because they aren’t giving us that, we can’t let it alone.

Sometimes we brush it off, as a way to protect ourselves from the truth of the answer—staying in ambiguity would be better than them giving us the answer we fear or rejection.

Sometimes we don’t pursue because it would not be healthy for us to continue to engage with that person. Sometimes we avoid because don’t want to cause conflict.